So honored to feature Kalee today. She is an incredible example and wrote the most beautiful song after she lost her son Crue ♥️
When my husband and I were married 13 years ago, the first thing we agreed on was we wanted a son and we wanted to name him Crue. Four years and one daughter later we were so excited to learn we were going to have the first grandson on both sides of the family. When he was born we both immediately felt like we’d known him for years. Though he was just a baby, Crue had a way of making everyone around him feel loved.
On the morning of March 11, 2011, at almost 5 months old, I went to check on Crue because he had been sleeping longer than normal. When I found him, he was no longer breathing. My attempts, and later the hospital's attempts, to perform CPR were both unsuccessful. I left the hospital that day with nothing but a broken heart and hundreds of unanswered questions.
It's been almost 9 years now since I said goodbye to Crue and looking back I’ve learned so much. I’ve learned growth doesn’t just come automatically as a result of our circumstances, it’s a choice that has to be made. When difficult times come, we all have to choose whether we learn from our trials or surrender to them. I’ve learned that asking questions is fundamental to learning, and learning is essential for growth. As Cecil O. Samuelson once said, “Real progress is almost always the result of asking the right questions.”
It’s taken me almost 9 years to find a way to keep the memory of Crue alive. I recently felt the urge to write lyrics to a song that I had my sister compose. Writing this song was not only a way to keep his memory alive, but was also extremely therapeutic. I would encourage anyone who has experienced loss to find some way to do the same- whether it be through blogging, music, poetry, art, writing, or creating beautiful jewelry (@rightly.royce). There is a certain element to healing when we can find a way to remember our loved ones and at the same time reach out and help others.